CPS and our disappointment!

Many of you know of our disappointment with DSS that started in February when they put us under investigation after one of the twins (who came from an abusive home) stated that we locked them in their room for days, didn't feed them, slapped them across the face, beat them, and a whole list of other things. Most of the social workers involved said that they knew we wouldn't do things like this but "they had to follow protocol." Well the investigation is over and we are not guilty, but while the investigator was her she spotted some "red flags." Here are a few that I can remember, our DSS hasn't sent me the copies of the paperwork that I requested yet.

#1 ~ Teaching sign language is a bad thing for children this young...
**Last time I checked all studies were pointing to starting signing with your children around 9 months can eliminate the "terrible twos", give them larger vocabulary, and help them read at a younger age...among many other benefits.

#2 ~ Giving our child the opportunity to say "please" before handing him his bottle or a snack only provides more of a sense of loss and causes mental trauma.
**Pretty sure that if you don't teach your children to say "please & thank you" they will not learn how and that the kids will start running the house and not the parents!

#3 ~ If you do not want the children in the home not to have candy unless permitted, do not put the candy dish on the counter, in a dish, that they cannot reach unless the move something to get it.
**This was a situation with the twins, they would sneak chairs over to the counter and "steal" [our word not DSS's...we got in trouble for using steal!] candy from the candy dish and then throw the wrappers under the couches and their bed! "You cannot expect children to understand these types of boundaries and so you must simply remove the candy so you do not have to worry about it" hmm.....

There were several other instances and so anyway, we have to take parenting classes because while the investigation showed that we are not abusive, neglectful parents...we clearly do not know how to raise children!



Anyway, this post was brought about by something I read through one of my feeds this morning...another situation where DSS (in this particular case it is CPS) all said the felt that removing the child was unwarranted, but they had to follow protocol. You can read this story here...please leave comment on lovebeingmama.blogspot.com

I would love to hear what you think!


PS...Here is a just in case

DSS = Department of Social Services
CPS = Child Protection Services