Comments

Sometimes you have to wonder what people are thinking, right? 

Now that I am looking obviously pregnant some of the comments we have been receiving baffle me!  I mean I literally do not know what to say or how to respond, I actually probably get the confused puppy look on my face...you know when they tilt their heads and look at you wondering what you are doing?!?!?

But one that had been in my head for days is:

"So now don't you wish you would have waited on the adoptions, I mean since you were able to do it on your own and all?"

So there are so many things wrong with this statement it isn't even funny!  First of all, if we would have waited we wouldn't have our Princess or our Boo in our lives...and the last four years would have been pretty empty!  The only regret from the last 4 years is that I didn't take enough pictures because they grow up TOO FAST! 

Next, we were not able to do it on our own.  Having the fertility shots work 3 years ago would have SORT OF been on our own, but any time a life is created (whether it lives until birth or not) God created that life.  We by no means did this on our own! 

And if we really wish that we would have been able to acheive a preganancy that seemed like it was going well and that was our ultimate goal we wouldn't be working towards another adoption in the midst of my pregnancy. 

So NO!  We are very happy that we adopted Princess and Boo and that they will have the great joy of becoming big sister and brother to our Grasshopper and (Lord willing) another adopted child!

Another one that stings a little is the whole, "see, I knew if you would have worked harder at loosing weight you would have been able to get/stay pregnant sooner!"  You see since I lost 50 lbs just before getting pregnant that automatically means that is why I got pregnant.  The REAL truth is that I was able to get my PCOS under control which in turn finally allowed me to loose some of that weight AND getting the PCOS under control allowed me to conceive and so far carry a healthy pregnancy (16weeks 5 days!) 

There are so many things we have heard over the last four years about 'stealing' someones child or all the thoughtless (at least I hope they are thoughtless) comments people have made.  You learn to let is roll off of your back and move on because we do have a 'different' family.  But it is the family God had in store for us, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Sure, I would have loved to have had the chance to love on our 4 precious babies that went to heaven to early in their tiny little lives...but that wasn't Gods plan for us.  Does it make it hurt any less?  NOO!  Does it make it easier when their birthdays come around?  NOOOO!  But it does help to know that God is in control and He knows just what our family is suppose to look like/be!

Next time someone is going through something 'different' {onlly because you are not familiar with it} think before you offer advise or make a comment.  Many people are in certain situations for difficult reasons and the words you speak can really slice them. 

God has a plan, and I am thankful for that!